Dr. Barton Goldsmith: A sad memory is not necessarily a bad thing

Dr. Barton Goldsmith
Jun 23, 2026
Jun 23, 2026

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Dr. Barton Goldsmith

Facebook is now reposting old “memories” for us on our pages and, I have to say, it can be a nice thing. But if you see a picture of you and your ex, or a post about another loss or hard time, it can trigger difficult feelings. I know because it just happened to me. I was reminded that a year ago was the beginning of my dog’s last days, and yes, it did make me a little “misty,” as we used to say. Still I shared it with my FB Friends, and it inspired this column.

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Dr. Barton Goldsmith, an award-winning Los Angeles-based psychotherapist, writer and keynote speaker, can be reached via e-mail at Barton@BartonGoldsmith.com.