My son gave gift of life; I want more families to know they can | Shelita Furlow Sep 11, 2026 Sep 11, 2026 Updated Sep 11, 2026 × Can anyone spare a kidney? “Or else I will die." Prefer us on Google Learn More Facebook Twitter WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save The day before Jovan Wilder turned 19, I got the call no mother is ever ready for. Shelita Furlow (left) and her son, Jovan Wilder (right). Contributed by Shelita Furlow. kAm|J D@? — >J D>2CE[ 4C62E:G6[ 5CF>\A=2J:?8[ 32D<6E32==\=@G:?8 D@?[ H9@ H@F=5 96=A 2?J@?6 2?5 2=H2JD 7@F?5 2 H2J E@ 3C:?8 @FE E96 36DE :? E96 A6@A=6 2C@F?5 9:> — 925 366? DECF4< 3J 2 DEC2J 3F==6E H9:=6 C:5:?8 H:E9 9:D 3C@E96C] w6 DA6?E 9:D 3:CE952J :? E96 :?E6?D:G6 42C6 F?:E] %96 ?6IE 52J[ 5@4E@CD E@=5 >6 96 H2D 3C2:? 5625]k^AmkAmx? 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