Spotlight AP Richard Kyte: Key to happiness is learning to accept things as they are Richard Kyte The Ethical Life Feb 1, 2023 Feb 1, 2023 Updated May 17, 2023 Facebook Twitter WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save Richard Kyte is the director of the D.B. Reinhart Institute for Ethics in Leadership at Viterbo University in La Crosse, Wisconsin. His new book, “Finding Your Third Place: Building Happier Communities (and Making Great Friends Along the Way)," is available from Fulcrum Books. He also cohosts "The Ethical Life" podcast. kAm(96? >J D@? H2D 23@FE b J62CD @=5[ x FD65 E@ E2<6 9:> H:E9 >6 E@ 2 =@42= =F>36CJ2C5] %96 DE@C6 925 2? @=5\72D9:@?65 8F>32== >249:?6 ;FDE :?D:56 E96 6?EC2?46] xE H2D E96 <:?5 J@F C2C6=J D66 2?J>@C6[ H:E9 2 =2C86 8=2DD 8=@36 7:==65 H:E9 9F?5C65D @7 9F86 8F>32==D] !=246 2 ?:4<6= :? E96 D=@E[ EFC? E96 4C2?<[ 2?5 2 8F>32== H@F=5 C@== @FE @? 2 >6E2= EC2J] k^AmkAm%96 562= H2D E92E :7 >J D@? 3692G65 :? E96 DE@C6[ 96 H@F=5 86E 2 ?:4<6= @? 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Reinhart Institute for Ethics in Leadership at Viterbo University in La Crosse, Wis., and co-host of "The Ethical Life" podcast. Be the first to know Get local news delivered to your inbox! Sign up! * I understand and agree that registration on or use of this site constitutes agreement to its user agreement and privacy policy. Related to this story What can we do to live a happier life? | The Ethical Life podcast 🎧 The hosts discuss a recent study about happiness and whether the philosophy of the stoics can help us in our everyday lives. Watch Now: Related Video The 10 safest cities in the United States How to stay warm, according to science How to stay warm, according to science Caliente: Top stories for May 1-7 Caliente: Top stories for May 1-7 Watch as Reid Park Zoo's elephants play in the mud Watch as Reid Park Zoo's elephants play in the mud
What can we do to live a happier life? | The Ethical Life podcast 🎧 The hosts discuss a recent study about happiness and whether the philosophy of the stoics can help us in our everyday lives.
